Is IVF Painful? What It Really Feels Like (And How to Care for Yourself)

If you’re here, you’re probably wondering: “Is IVF painful? Can I handle this?”

You’re not alone. At fertie, we hear this question all the time, and honestly? We asked it ourselves before starting our own journeys. Whether you’re thinking about IVF, actively preparing for a cycle, or just gathering information for the future, it’s normal to feel a mix of curiosity and apprehension. And while every body (and every journey) is different, we believe that knowing what to expect can replace fear with confidence.

The Honest Answer: Is IVF Painful?

The short answer? IVF isn’t usually described as painful. But there are moments that can be uncomfortable—both physically and emotionally. Understanding each step can help you feel less overwhelmed and more in control.

Let’s break it down.

Breaking Down the IVF Process (And How It Might Feel)

1. Hormone Injections

The stimulation phase is where you’ll give yourself daily hormone injections. This can feel intimidating at first (we won’t sugarcoat that!), but the needles are small and designed to minimize discomfort. Most women describe the feeling as a quick pinch. After a few days, the routine becomes familiar—some even say it’s empowering to take control of the process.
You might notice bloating as your ovaries grow and produce more follicles. It’s a bit like PMS bloat, but with a purpose: your body is working hard.

“The first injection was nerve-wracking, but by day three, I realized I was stronger than I thought.” — fertie Community Member

2. Monitoring & Blood Tests

Throughout your cycle, you’ll have regular ultrasounds and blood tests. These visits help your doctor fine-tune your treatment, but the frequent appointments (and early mornings) can feel exhausting.
Blood draws are a minor sting; the ultrasounds are internal but usually painless. Some women describe them as a bit uncomfortable—especially if you’re already feeling bloated.

3. Egg Retrieval

This is often the part people worry about the most. But here’s some reassurance: it’s done under sedation, so you won’t feel a thing during the procedure.
Afterward, you may feel cramping (like period pain) and bloating. Most people rest for the day, and many feel fine within 24–48 hours. Listening to your body and giving yourself time to recover is key here.

4. Embryo Transfer

This step is surprisingly quick and easy for most. It’s often compared to a Pap smear—mildly uncomfortable but not painful. Some women feel a little cramping afterward, but it typically passes quickly.
And then comes the two-week wait… which can be its own kind of emotional rollercoaster (we cover that here 👉 [link to blog about the 2-week wait]).

Emotional & Physical Self-Care During IVF

IVF isn’t just a medical process—it’s an emotional journey, too. Taking care of your body and your heart makes a huge difference.

When I was in the middle of my second IVF cycle, I realized that self-care wasn’t a luxury—it was survival. I started small: adding a 10-minute walk after injections, swapping scrolling for journaling, and letting myself rest without guilt. It helped me feel grounded, even when everything felt uncertain.

Here are a few ways to care for yourself during IVF:

• Stay hydrated. Water helps ease bloating and supports your body during stimulation.

• Rest without guilt. Fatigue is common. If you need an early night or a lazy afternoon, honor that.

• Gentle movement. Short walks or stretching can relieve the heavy feeling as your ovaries grow.

• Lean on your support system. Whether it’s your partner, a friend, or our Fertie community, connection makes it easier.

• Nurture your emotional health. Journaling, guided meditation, or even crying when you need to (no judgment here!).

Our Fertility 101 course includes expert tips on managing discomfort and emotional support through every IVF step. You don’t have to do this alone.

The Bottom Line: Everyone’s Experience is Unique

Some women breeze through IVF physically but find the emotional side harder. Others are surprised by how manageable it all is. No two journeys are the same—but we’re here to make sure yours feels supported, informed, and as gentle as possible.

Always talk to your doctor if you’re concerned about pain or side effects. And remember, this is your journey—you get to do it your way.

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Disclaimer: This post is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice. Always consult your healthcare provider for personalized guidance.